How self-pity will destroy our chances to make a difference
No one likes people who wallow in self-pity.
Amiright? It's cringe-worthy. It makes you want to slap them in the face with a fish and tell them to, "get over yourself, man!"
But in the midst of our disgust of self-pity, we warmly embrace a Trojan Horse called "complaining." That's really all it is, right? A form of self-pitty? When we complain, we're saying to the world, "I deserve better than this." Using whatever form of self-righteous methodology we've adopted, we tell ourselves that whatever bad thing is happening to us right now can happen to anyone else except us. We're the exception. We're worth more than this crap.
Usually it's not that blunt or noticeable. We aren't seriously thinking to ourselves that we're the supreme ruler of the universe and these people who are inconveniencing us are mere peasants that live to serve us.
If we're being completely honest - I'm including myself here - we often turn to self-pity because it feels good. It's nice to feel like we deserve better, so we tell ourselves that. However, complaining is rooted in the same selfish part of our being that self-pity is rooted in. The part that expects better for our life because we deserve it. This little piece of our fleshly character runs contrary to the image that Christ has set up for us in Philippians 2:3-8.
Walking in humility means we're not above the inconveniences that life throws at us. It means we take life as it comes. We adapt, we hurdle, we overcome. But we don't complain or whine.
Now don't get me wrong - we can be disappointed. No one goes through life and isn't let down by things. But we don't let it get to our heads and dictate our attitude. We can say, "man, getting in that wreck sucks. I guess I need to start figuring out how insurance works." We're not sitting on our couch, car-less and complaining about it. We're being proactive about moving on because whether we like it or not, life isn't slowing down for us.
To complain is to not take responsibility for our life.
Those who succeed in life and make an impact aren't the complainers. They're the doers. Take life in stride and plow through obstacles with a smile on your face and you'll find opportunity and responsibility are given to you. The next time you feel like complaining, take a moment to think about what you're thankful for. Gratitude and self-pity cannot co-exist.
Part of living simply is simplifying our mind and our spirit. If we harbor ill-will or have a propensity for complaining, we're building up a lot of emotional and mental clutter in our lives. Learning to resist this part of our flesh isn't easy, but it's worth it.