Posts tagged perspective
Negativity is noise.

Life is hard. Harder for some than others. But in general, everyone has a lot of balls in the air. Budgeting, car maintenance, cleaning the house, committee meetings, career, Church, soccer practice, yard work… you get the idea. All of that activity piles up and two things start to happen...

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The Advantages of Viewing Your Life in 4D

Any time I take a step back and assess my life, I arrive at one of two conclusions:

  1. Stress: I’m overwhelmed because I’ve been trying to balance too many things at once
  2. FOMO: I’m missing out on so many things in an effort to focus on a few important things

And I’m sure I’m not alone — FOMO (fear of missing out) and stress are two of the most common symptoms of the common (wo)man. Not surprisingly, there’s a simple solution to both: viewing your life in 4D. To view your life in 4D, you have to incorporate the dimension of time; after all, your life exists along the continuum of time, not simply in the present. Let’s take a look at each issue adding in the perspective of time and see how it changes things.

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The Importance of Creating Touchstones to Lend Perspective

I was listening to Dallas Clayton (a children's book author) tell this story about when he was stuck in a traffic jam with his son. They sat bumper to bumper for a while before finally reaching the end of the traffic jam where they noticed a bunch of police cars and an ambulance crowded around a wreck. Dallas decided to turn it into a teaching moment for his son. "You see, even though it would've been easy to get upset over all of this traffic, what we didn't realize was that our situation could be a lot worse. We're stuck in traffic but we're in an air conditioned car, we're safe and we're together."

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The Life-Giving Practice of Assuming Positive Intent

Assuming negative intent. It's a pandemic. People from every social class, race and religion are so quick to get their feathers ruffled at the slightest disagreement. Some injustices are worth your righteous anger. Others, however, aren't worth your attention and any lashing response can only be described as childish.

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What you focus on, you will follow.

I did gymnastics when I was a child, parkour when I was in high school and cheerleading in college and in each discipline, the technique for doing a backflip was the same. You were taught that where your head goes, your body will follow. If you tilt your head and look back, your body will naturally go backwards. Mid-flip, as you spot your landing, your feet will follow through and land where you are looking.

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Who you've become > What you've done

Just last week, a few of my friends and I were discussing what things we often connected our identity to. For some, it was achievement in school. For others, it was their job title. For me, it was the projects that I found myself involved with. Somewhere in the depths of my mind, keeping myself busy with unique, creative projects was of such importance that my identity was tied to it.

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A Critique of Criticism (and PDA)

A quick disclaimer: few phrases frustrate me more than, "Don't judge me". The sentiment itself, whether a fear of criticism, a plea to be affirmed or a childish defiance of disapproval, is naive and pathetic. Naive, because people just judge. Right or wrong, it’s what we do, it’s how we make decisions. A blanket statement that judgment itself is wrong, flippantly disregards all of those who prudently avoided doing something stupid, hurtful or self-destructive by judging another person’s actions. It’s pathetic because it shows no self-assurance. If we don’t have the wherewithal to make a decision and shrug off judgment or defend it, we won’t get very far at all. For your own sake, be judged. People will never be pleased.

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Stop "Fixing Your Attitude" and Do Something

I woke up to my phone buzzing violently against the hard plastic picnic table that is my makeshift computer desk across the room. I put it there because I thought it might help me get out of bed if it annoyed me enough. By the time I removed my body from the warm cocoon of blankets and scuffled across the cold tile to turn my alarm off, I figured my senses would have been assaulted enough to wake me up for good. It worked. My thumb impulsively slid across the screen to turn off the alarm and I once again scuffled across the cold tile to my bathroom to get a hot shower going. As the water pours over my head I began thinking... thinking... dreaming... crap I totally just fell asleep standing up in the shower! I didn't even know that was possible...

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When life gives you lemons, it doesn't matter cause you got gumbo at home.

Hey kid! I've got a proposition for ya, I think you're gonna love it. You know I'm running my own company and we've done pretty well over the last five years... well, I was thinking that once you graduated college you might like to come work for me! I've got a position with your name on it. It's a pretty good job if I do say so myself... you'll be making six figures to start not to mention bonuses, a company car and some great perks. Anyway, if you're up for it, I have a few requests for you. I want you to complete every homework assignment, make A's on every exam, get involved in a student life organization on campus and volunteer at the local food shelters on the weekends. If you can do that, the job is yours. Waddaya say kid?

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Fine, I'll do you a favor. Will you marry me?

I found a little gem on social media the other day. As I read it, I knew something wasn't quite right. I got a sickly feeling in my heart, not because I was offended by what I read but because I realized how many people hold a slighted and cynical view of marriage. My first instinct was to stamp everything with a bright red "FALSE!" but as I brought my gavel down, I realized I couldn't... because it was all true. Here's what it said:

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"Vibrant" Doesn't Mean Perfect

Smooth sailing is a thing of daydreams. It doesn't happen. The waters will get choppy, the thunderheads will open their floodgates and lightening will strike too close for comfort. Vibrant living doesn't boast a perfect life. Vibrant living boasts a life of contentment, perseverance and joy.

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